What Does It Mean To Have Imperfections?

imperfection:

noun

im· per· fec· tion | \ ˌim-pər-ˈfek-shən

:not perfect

I think you’d probably ask next, what is perfect. Well, here it goes; perfect is corresponding to an ideal standard or abstract concept. In my opinion, both words and definitions are trash. I would imagine to be perfect there must be an original “ideal” that is suited for one’s needs.

But if all of us are imperfect, who are we to judge what is perfect? It’s a matter of perspective if you ask me. If you view someone as ‘perfect,’ then that’s precisely what he/she is to YOU and ONLY YOU. But, many times, we don’t recognize those imperfections as lousy traits; therefore, we accept them as good traits, and that’s where our perspective shows us who can and cannot makes us happy.

Now, if we evaluate ourselves (if we’re honest with ourselves, many of you like to lie to yourselves, and those are toxic habits), we may come down too hard on ourselves; therefore, we have to navigate through our mental state, emotional state, and physical state to see what makes us happy. And these things change frequently. What made us happy last year may not necessarily make us happy this year. And what is imperfect to us now may seem completely perfect a year from now.

Yet, what does it mean to have imperfections? It’s to accept all of you, your pros and cons. I didn’t say accept all your bad habits and never look to improve yourself. We always improve as human beings, but it takes patience to see how to change our bad/toxic habits.

I’ll use myself as an example; I have a very laid back nonchalant attitude. I’ve been this way since I was probably 13yrs old. To some, this was a good trait, and for others, they hated it but wouldn’t say it outright. Instead, guys would tell me I don’t show any emotions or say I don’t care, and it’s quite the opposite I wear my heart on my sleeve when I’m seriously interested in whomever I’m dating. Problem is I’m not an outwardly emotional person, and, my laid back attitude is a defensive trait that can’t fit into any healthy relationship. I’m aware they I’m a work in progress. This is my imperfection. What’s yours?

Till next time,

Original Good Girl

I’ve Been Rejected

So I started dating a couple of months ago after leaving a long-term relationship and I’ve come to a few conclusions.

  1. Women get rejected too.
  2. I’m not who I used to be, I have a new vision of what love is.
  3. If it’s too good to be true then it is.

Well here’s what happened, I got rejected!

I had never been rejected until last year. I met a handsome young guy that I approached (*kudos to me for taking that step*) and as we texted for a few days I noticed the messages were coming in hours later or a whole day later. And so my last attempt was to try to meet up for a drink. When I got the “I don’t drink text” I knew I was being rejected. What I learned from this experience though is that not everyone is interested in me. Now I know how it feels, Karma is a B***H for real.

Dating will force you to sharpen all your senses if your dating for a purpose of course. You will analyze the guys that are attracted to you, what your doing to attract those guys and how to change if you want to change. Dating is the pre-requisite to a long-term relationship in my view. I realized while dating and meeting new guys that I’m not attracted to the same things I used to like. In fact, I’m glad I’ve evolved because I certainly wouldn’t want a repeat of my last relationship. I’m using a new perspective and I know I’m not who I used to be.

Lust never lasts. Lust is dangerous, it’s a temporary feeling when you meet someone for the very first time and you both have so much in common. It’s a new sense of desire when you think you’ve met that one person that’s been your missing puzzle piece in your life. But the truth is if your missing something in your life you will never find it in your partner. You need to be whole and happy with yourself before you fall for someone that may not be the right partner for you.

However, your journey in dating may turnout always remember to be good to yourself.

Good Vibes Only,

Original Good Girl