Tag: Adulting

Why Do We Need To Heal & What Does It Look Like?

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I’ve been seeing so many posts, podcasters, and tv segments discussing the power of healing and healing in general. There are millions of reasons why we need to heal. Here are 5 reasons why we need to heal and what it could look like to heal.

Reason 5

Living in the United States is not the Black Womans Dream. And the Justice System along with the Financial System was never in our favor. Hence why the murders of Breonna Taylor walk free. And Black women earn $0.97 for every dollar earned by a white man with the same job and qualifications. You deserve to heal, breathe.

Reason 4

A virus we still understand very little about has changed our lives completely. You deserve to heal, take in the sun.

Reason 3

Suicide rates are still on the rise and mental health is still not spoken about enough. You deserve to heal, life does get better.

Reason 2

Before life gets easier you have to learn from all the lessons that made life difficult. Whatever you loss was meant to leave your life. Whomever you loss left you with memories. You deserve to heal, because you’ve been through enough already.

Reason 1

You deserve to heal because that’s the only way you’ll be able to live your fullest life.

Signing off,

Original Good Girl

What Does It Mean To Have Imperfections?

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imperfection:

noun

im· per· fec· tion | \ ˌim-pər-ˈfek-shən

:not perfect

I think you’d probably ask next, what is perfect. Well, here it goes; perfect is corresponding to an ideal standard or abstract concept. In my opinion, both words and definitions are trash. I would imagine to be perfect there must be an original “ideal” that is suited for one’s needs.

But if all of us are imperfect, who are we to judge what is perfect? It’s a matter of perspective if you ask me. If you view someone as ‘perfect,’ then that’s precisely what he/she is to YOU and ONLY YOU. But, many times, we don’t recognize those imperfections as lousy traits; therefore, we accept them as good traits, and that’s where our perspective shows us who can and cannot makes us happy.

Now, if we evaluate ourselves (if we’re honest with ourselves, many of you like to lie to yourselves, and those are toxic habits), we may come down too hard on ourselves; therefore, we have to navigate through our mental state, emotional state, and physical state to see what makes us happy. And these things change frequently. What made us happy last year may not necessarily make us happy this year. And what is imperfect to us now may seem completely perfect a year from now.

Yet, what does it mean to have imperfections? It’s to accept all of you, your pros and cons. I didn’t say accept all your bad habits and never look to improve yourself. We always improve as human beings, but it takes patience to see how to change our bad/toxic habits.

I’ll use myself as an example; I have a very laid back nonchalant attitude. I’ve been this way since I was probably 13yrs old. To some, this was a good trait, and for others, they hated it but wouldn’t say it outright. Instead, guys would tell me I don’t show any emotions or say I don’t care, and it’s quite the opposite I wear my heart on my sleeve when I’m seriously interested in whomever I’m dating. Problem is I’m not an outwardly emotional person, and, my laid back attitude is a defensive trait that can’t fit into any healthy relationship. I’m aware they I’m a work in progress. This is my imperfection. What’s yours?

Till next time,

Original Good Girl

The Effects of Adulting: What everyone failed to tell me!

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Adulting is hard as #@*k!

When I gradutated college I wanted a manual of how to get through my 20’s so I bought a few ‘Self Help’ books. Ofcourse my friends laughed. But now as I peak into my 30’s, Adulting is just the way of life, there’s no more summer breaks, no extended Holiday days off from school, no end of term and looking forward to a looong break ahead. This is life!

Adulting has no manual, growing into your 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and so on has no manual. You have to create the life you want, save the money you earn (and not only for back to school) for bills, for emergency, for trips, for everyday spending. Everyday is a new challenge, every relationship has new stipulations and every job comes with new demands. We’ve been adulting since we earned our first $1, we just didn’t understand what was next. And that’s Okay. This is life, it’s not so hard if you stop comparing yourself to ‘The Joneses’ or to social media.

“Life is what you make it”

That quote always pops up but what does it even mean. It means YOU DEFINE YOUR LIFE, that’s it. If you rather see your money in the closet than in the bank, that’s the life you want, if it means watching your money grow in stocks and businesses that’s your choice. There is no meme that defines your life, you are the only person that knows as an adult what means the world to you. To me, I see life more grand than any valley or mountain or tree on this earth. Life is simple, it has a beginning, middle and end and although it’s not always easy, it’s the way I get through all those moments. Because then I can reminisce on those times and share my experience with others regardless I’m sharing with my peers, my elders or those younger than me. My life is my story as is yours.

Like Beyonce said “I’m a Grooooown Woman, I can do WHATEVER I want”