Actions | Words

Actions over words. I try to live by every day. Our actions are our truth; our words are ideas that we believe in our head. But too many people are stuck in their heads, telling themselves a false narrative.

Meditate on what’s right, repeat positive words on how you want your life to look like, put into action what you want, and watch the rewards come to fruition.

Be mindful the same will occur when we are petty and negative.

Remember always ACTIONS over WORDS

My Story: In 2019, I was searching high and low for the best way to get into a certification course (I won’t get into specifics). But I wasn’t accepted into the program because I didn’t pass the entrance exam. That didn’t stop me, I went to a seminar in early 2020 at another location that didn’t require an entrance exam, and now I was determined to take this course. How would I pay for this course? I had no idea; maybe I get a second job or apply for a grant.

A month later, my job announced the same course would be offered for free because the corporation was awarded a grant. I applied right away, took an exam, and was accepted into the program. Excited and relieved is how I felt because I wouldn’t need to speed $5k on this program, and now my director would see my efforts to grow with the Corp.

When the course began, I started getting these negative thoughts, “I’m not good enough,” “I’m in over my head, who do I think I am.” My professor was encouraging throughout the course and kept a very positive outlook for everyone in the program. And before you know it, I completed the program and unexpectedly became valedictorian.

All this to say, I put action into words. I told my director and supervisor, and other colleagues about my interest in learning new skills, and I did the work necessary to get what I said in words I wanted.

Your life is your story, don’t let others write it for you!

Till next time,

Your favorite Original Good Girl

Heeeeey, January 2020

It’s been ten days since we’ve entered the new year and there are so many possibilities of different directions we can go. Whether you are creating goals for a new career, a new hustle, new hobby, new diet regime, regardless, we all want something new in our lives

2020, This is the year of Intention!

When writing down your goals, write down the outcome you’d like from that goal.

Your Intention should have a purpose to serve. So let’s talk about serving, being a servant is to be of use. Your new healthy diet plan could be useful to a better lifestyle where you can have fewer doctor appointments later in life. That business you want to start, how can people use your product or service to people that have never needed it before. The book that you want to write, how will people use it to feed their imagination or knowledge of what the world has offered you. That new relationship you want to enter, what do you want from a new partner and what can you provide a new relationship; will it be a healthy relationship filled with respect, loyalty, communication, understanding, and trust.

Let’s get started with the Intention to serve. Our world needs more changes with positive outcomes.

Have a magnificent year,

Original Good Girl

Word of the Week: Reciprocity

Reciprocity! 2019 getting lemonade out of lemons, not seeds.

Reciprocity: the practice of exchanging for mutual benefit with others.

What you give is what you get!

Is that true? Sometimes you can give a lot and get back so little. When do you know the right time to let go?

Maybe you don’t need to let go. Maybe like seasons, there’s a time for everything. April Spring showers bring rain to leave us with May Flowers. Seasons give, and the Earth provides gifts of beauty.

Like a relationship, both partners give and take. In some relationships, one partner gives more than the other, and the other takes it all, without providing an equal amount. 80/20 or even 60/40.

People question themselves, was I good enough? Was I selfish?

Over time, when you deprive your partner, you deny yourself. Or when you cause too much pain to your partner, he/she leaves mentally, emotionally then physically.

Self-care isn’t only for women; it’s also for men. If you don’t like the way you treat yourself, how can you treat the one you say you care about with love that you’ve never given yourself first. You come first because you know all that you deserve and you wouldn’t want less. So why give your partner less.

Picture yourself as lemon, as you grow and provide yourself with nurture, care, love, good health, then you can produce your lemonade. Your lemonade could be your next fantastic relationship, your next business venture, whatever it may be. It’s about having a mutual benefit in all you do. You give your all at work, and in return, you get a raise. You give yourself to someone you love, you receive love back. Well, at least that’s the way it should be.

Until next time…

Your Original Good Girl

Enigma

Word of the week – Enigma: a person or thing that is mysterious, puzzling or difficult to understand.

Everyone has been on a positive journey to find their true and best selves. But we should still be careful of those with egnimatic complexes.

Being transparent and vulnerable to friends, family and strangers will never get more comfortable. That’s alright though because what’s required in life doesn’t come easy. I find that often we tend to create a fictitious persona to please our friends, family, co-workers, and strangers. It’s as though being honest and genuine isn’t honored because we fear the consequences of what others will think about us. But it’s much more challenging to keep up with a lie.

A friend shared with me an Instagram post that read “isn’t it weird to think that so many versions of you exist in others minds? Some people see me as a shy girl who doesn’t talk, some see me as an annoying girl who doesn’t shut up, some see me as kind & caring, some see me as cold & mean, some see me as timid, some see me as crazy.” This resonated with me so much because I know I’ve been all those characteristics with people at some point. But there’s a mystery in who I am because I react off of the energy people show me.

So why haven’t I allowed myself to just showed up before others show me? Fear.

Fear of constant judgment and ridicule held me back. And it tormented me for years. It held me back from opportunities and places that I desired.

In 2018 I finally decided to show up and let go of the mystery of who I am. I choose to be vulnerable and honest and loud. Since then the universe has been so good to me. I haven’t decided to show up only for the world but also for myself. Being full on present and stepping out on faith is a choice. And being yourself is more significant than being a puzzle.

Like the amazing Maya Angelou said “when people show you who they are, believe them,” show people who you are because it’ll weed out who’s for you and who isn’t and that’s not always a bad thing. Everyone isn’t for you, but puzzles allow others to create a story for you. Choose who you want to be!