I unplugged from Instagram for a month.

What happens when you unplug from social media? Nothing, everything still goes on, you just aren’t plugged into looking at pictures and videos that you thought you were interested in.

Well then what’s the point? -You can put that energy back into yourself, back into your art, your goals, you set yourself free from what you thought you needed. It’s not being Anti-Social. If you even think your being social just because you have an IG handle, you need to ask yourself when was the last time you even thought about personally reaching out to a stranger just to form bond. Whether that bond may last one hour or 10 years it’s an effort and part of your own history, your story. That’s what social media has done for most, formed temporary bonds with people we’re probably too scared to introduce ourselves to. And yet Social Media has broaden our eyes and minds to several different cultures, careers, issues, and ventures that we didn’t always thought were for many of us.

But here’s a reason why some people to practice how to use social media with kindness… story time

I recently lost my id and credit cards and a young man found it and found me on Facebook. BUT… he said ‘If I go out on a date with him he’d give it back. Ummmm, 1. This ain’t no Paramount Motion Picture fairy-tale. 2. You don’t know if I’m crazy and I don’t know if your crazy. 3. What if I was not into guys? Well I declined the date and asked kindly for this young man to send my identification back to the address on my ID. It’s been 2 months and I still have not received my card wallet with my belongings. Honestly I may have considered the date had he actually mailed back my things but now that’s definitely not happening.

So please lets use Social Media with kindness all!

Xoxo, Original GG

Honesty Hour: I fell into a comfort zone.

Hey yall, well as you can see it’s been quite some time since I’ve posted any content on my blog and it’s not because I wanted to neglect my writing but life has been pushing me out of my comfort zone.

So am I still writing, HELL YES! I’ve actually been writing weekly for the new PURPOSE APP by Angela Simmons. If you haven’t downloaded the App do it now. And yes you read it correctly, WEEKLY! I’ve been putting most of my effort into writing at least 3 articles on Faith, Love/Relationships, Beauty and Health. I was blessed to be given this opportunity to share my writing and thoughts on a platform focused on Women and our Purpose. It hasn’t been the easiest for me though. I have days when I don’t want to write, days where I don’t want to share, days where I think to myself “WTF am I even doing here”. But it has taught me that with consistency I can push myself out of nasty mental funks. It’s worth it, and I’ve talking to God more often than ever. Nothing is impossible with God on your side!

And work, I have a great career where I enjoy what I do as an Analyst. I spend so much time at work on several projects, where I don’t regret taking on issues that no one else may not want to handle. Plus the company I work for is expanding and I just know I can make a difference and make my mark. I rather not say who I work for because I’d probably need permission for that but it’s not about the company, this is all about me and the growth I’ve been making. I work through my lunch some days, past my scheduled hours and although I get home totally exhausted it’s worth it. I’ve learned that if you really want to be great at what you do you have to spend a little bit more time at it than the norm. I’m not interested in being normal, I’m interested in being great at what I do even if it means my weekends consist of resting for 2 days straight at home. I look forward to going to work now.

Now as for this blog, I want to take it to another level. So it won’t only be about love and relationships and self-care. I’ll be talking much more about Mental Health, Sexual Health, Lifestyle as an American Haitian, a Black Girl is a growing world and much more. I’m not boxing myself and my words anymore. Expect something different from me. I’ve been going to Therapy consistently, listening to podcast more often, diggin my 90s music and new music that I can relate to and living my life without the tight control of what everyone thinks and wants from me.

I’m on a journey, and that means there will be a change…

Xoxo, Original GG

The Effects of Adulting: What everyone failed to tell me!

Adulting is hard as #@*k!

When I gradutated college I wanted a manual of how to get through my 20’s so I bought a few ‘Self Help’ books. Ofcourse my friends laughed. But now as I peak into my 30’s, Adulting is just the way of life, there’s no more summer breaks, no extended Holiday days off from school, no end of term and looking forward to a looong break ahead. This is life!

Adulting has no manual, growing into your 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and so on has no manual. You have to create the life you want, save the money you earn (and not only for back to school) for bills, for emergency, for trips, for everyday spending. Everyday is a new challenge, every relationship has new stipulations and every job comes with new demands. We’ve been adulting since we earned our first $1, we just didn’t understand what was next. And that’s Okay. This is life, it’s not so hard if you stop comparing yourself to ‘The Joneses’ or to social media.

“Life is what you make it”

That quote always pops up but what does it even mean. It means YOU DEFINE YOUR LIFE, that’s it. If you rather see your money in the closet than in the bank, that’s the life you want, if it means watching your money grow in stocks and businesses that’s your choice. There is no meme that defines your life, you are the only person that knows as an adult what means the world to you. To me, I see life more grand than any valley or mountain or tree on this earth. Life is simple, it has a beginning, middle and end and although it’s not always easy, it’s the way I get through all those moments. Because then I can reminisce on those times and share my experience with others regardless I’m sharing with my peers, my elders or those younger than me. My life is my story as is yours.

Like Beyonce said “I’m a Grooooown Woman, I can do WHATEVER I want”

3 Reasons Why It’s Important To Be Complete Before Entering A Whole New Relationship.

Disclaimer: I am not a licensed or professional psychologist or therapist. Please seek professional guidance if you feel like you need to speak to someone.

Having a partner is fantastic, you have someone to create new moments with, share your thoughts with and naturally grow together. And having a healthy mental state of mind is even more amazing and necessary to have. I don’t believe there is a such thing as being “normal” we are all so different that we must understand one another to even come to an agreement of what “normal” looks like. But to continue, You owe it to yourself to be complete, and you have more to offer your partner in your relationship. So here are 5 reasons why it’s utterly essential to have your mental health and relationship to be in check.

1. No One Can Complete Your Void Except You

– Would you prefer an easy $50 gig that requires little work and little knowledge over a $100 gig that would require just a tad bit more training that could draw you into even greater possibilities? I’m guessing you’d go for that $100 gig because you know more is better in the long run. So why would you offer your partner less of yourself?

~ Being in a relationship requires work, and you deserve to be completely honest with yourself when you know your not your best self, you can’t afford to cut corners and sell yourself short of being amazing. Being mentally healthy is not just a perk for your partner but a great gift to yourself. Sometimes we think having a partner will complete our lives. We may have a void in our lives and seeking a partner will never fill that void because only you can fill that void with whatever it is that you feel is missing in your life. Maybe that void is ‘battling self-confidence’ or ‘dealing with a bad break-up.’ Finding the root of the cause of what your void is and filling YOUR void is your responsibility. See a pattern here, this is ‘Yours.’ Don’t go into a new relationship hoping that a partner will complete you or your void. It’s possible to be in a relationship with the perfect person with all their goals accomplished, beautiful/handsome, everything you’ve been looking for in a lifetime partner. But when that “perfect person’ continues to grow and flourish will you grow bitter and resent their wholesomeness just because you haven’t figured out what’s missing in your life? Or will you challenge their worth, making them question if they’re good enough for you? Don’t do either! Be a complete package for yourself and for your relationship. Don’t sell yourself short just because you don’t want to do the work that’s required to be whole. Complete your own void!

2. You’re Carrying Heavy Weight

– Nobody likes someone holding them down; literally. Problems and drama that didn’t come with your relationship should be solved on your own. Your heavyweight belongs to you. No one is responsible for carrying your burdens, troubles, bad habits, and the bad choices that you’ve made. If you’ve got baggage, carry it. If you got terrible habits; change them. We all have heavyweight that we tend to carry around into relationships. And we all know what happens after, our partner gets aggravated, and love is lost. So stop carrying your heavyweight from relationship to relationship. Get rid of that weight, solve those problems you have on your own time and start fresh and light. Your life is just as important as the next relationship you are looking to get into.

3. Discipline

– A little discipline in your personal life goes a long way in other areas of your life. Having discipline is an acquired attribute. You’ve gotta be intentional about eating healthy, arriving to work on time, and be committed in a relationship that requires attention, love, care, support, patience, communication, listening, and it all has to be reciprocated. Being lazy and allowing poor manners in a relationship like having the same arguments about the same problems is a start to reflect on where you make it a priority to change and find a different outcome. Discipline is training yourself to correct a problem or molding yourself to become a better human. It’s not just for your partner it’s for you as well. Its self care, for yourself.

Don’t worry this is a process for me as well, I’m still a working progress in need of much self love and care.

So in the meantime be original, it’s not perfect but it’s you!

From your Original Good Girl, till next time!