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Welcome to Original Good Girl, where I share nothing about being a “good girl” and I learned alot about myself in relationships, friendships, dating, Mental Health and everything else in between.

The truth is I was always perceived as a good girl because I was kind (sorta) but that term is so old school and we don’t live in a world where being a good girl is actually a good thing. Being yourself is a good thing. I have my vices and I’m not ashamed of them because I’ve grown into a woman with a soul that’s been loved and been hurt. Life comes with an emotional roller coaster but life has so much to offer and I cannot be boxed into one term.

Look, I’ve experienced anxiety, depression, heartbreak, I’ve broken hearts myself and I’m taking one step at a time to become a better me because who I am today is wiser than the woman I was yesterday.

As a young black woman in a world changing to understand me and my culture, I am ready to teach and learn.

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Actions | Words

Actions over words. I try to live by every day. Our actions are our truth; our words are ideas that we believe in our head. But too many people are stuck in their heads, telling themselves a false narrative.

Meditate on what’s right, repeat positive words on how you want your life to look like, put into action what you want, and watch the rewards come to fruition.

Be mindful the same will occur when we are petty and negative.

Remember always ACTIONS over WORDS

My Story: In 2019, I was searching high and low for the best way to get into a certification course (I won’t get into specifics). But I wasn’t accepted into the program because I didn’t pass the entrance exam. That didn’t stop me, I went to a seminar in early 2020 at another location that didn’t require an entrance exam, and now I was determined to take this course. How would I pay for this course? I had no idea; maybe I get a second job or apply for a grant.

A month later, my job announced the same course would be offered for free because the corporation was awarded a grant. I applied right away, took an exam, and was accepted into the program. Excited and relieved is how I felt because I wouldn’t need to speed $5k on this program, and now my director would see my efforts to grow with the Corp.

When the course began, I started getting these negative thoughts, “I’m not good enough,” “I’m in over my head, who do I think I am.” My professor was encouraging throughout the course and kept a very positive outlook for everyone in the program. And before you know it, I completed the program and unexpectedly became valedictorian.

All this to say, I put action into words. I told my director and supervisor, and other colleagues about my interest in learning new skills, and I did the work necessary to get what I said in words I wanted.

Your life is your story, don’t let others write it for you!

Till next time,

Your favorite Original Good Girl

Why Do We Need To Heal & What Does It Look Like?

I’ve been seeing so many posts, podcasters, and tv segments discussing the power of healing and healing in general. There are millions of reasons why we need to heal. Here are 5 reasons why we need to heal and what it could look like to heal.

Reason 5

Living in the United States is not the Black Womans Dream. And the Justice System along with the Financial System was never in our favor. Hence why the murders of Breonna Taylor walk free. And Black women earn $0.97 for every dollar earned by a white man with the same job and qualifications. You deserve to heal, breathe.

Reason 4

A virus we still understand very little about has changed our lives completely. You deserve to heal, take in the sun.

Reason 3

Suicide rates are still on the rise and mental health is still not spoken about enough. You deserve to heal, life does get better.

Reason 2

Before life gets easier you have to learn from all the lessons that made life difficult. Whatever you loss was meant to leave your life. Whomever you loss left you with memories. You deserve to heal, because you’ve been through enough already.

Reason 1

You deserve to heal because that’s the only way you’ll be able to live your fullest life.

Signing off,

Original Good Girl

What Does It Mean To Have Imperfections?

imperfection:

noun

im· per· fec· tion | \ ˌim-pər-ˈfek-shən

:not perfect

I think you’d probably ask next, what is perfect. Well, here it goes; perfect is corresponding to an ideal standard or abstract concept. In my opinion, both words and definitions are trash. I would imagine to be perfect there must be an original “ideal” that is suited for one’s needs.

But if all of us are imperfect, who are we to judge what is perfect? It’s a matter of perspective if you ask me. If you view someone as ‘perfect,’ then that’s precisely what he/she is to YOU and ONLY YOU. But, many times, we don’t recognize those imperfections as lousy traits; therefore, we accept them as good traits, and that’s where our perspective shows us who can and cannot makes us happy.

Now, if we evaluate ourselves (if we’re honest with ourselves, many of you like to lie to yourselves, and those are toxic habits), we may come down too hard on ourselves; therefore, we have to navigate through our mental state, emotional state, and physical state to see what makes us happy. And these things change frequently. What made us happy last year may not necessarily make us happy this year. And what is imperfect to us now may seem completely perfect a year from now.

Yet, what does it mean to have imperfections? It’s to accept all of you, your pros and cons. I didn’t say accept all your bad habits and never look to improve yourself. We always improve as human beings, but it takes patience to see how to change our bad/toxic habits.

I’ll use myself as an example; I have a very laid back nonchalant attitude. I’ve been this way since I was probably 13yrs old. To some, this was a good trait, and for others, they hated it but wouldn’t say it outright. Instead, guys would tell me I don’t show any emotions or say I don’t care, and it’s quite the opposite I wear my heart on my sleeve when I’m seriously interested in whomever I’m dating. Problem is I’m not an outwardly emotional person, and, my laid back attitude is a defensive trait that can’t fit into any healthy relationship. I’m aware they I’m a work in progress. This is my imperfection. What’s yours?

Till next time,

Original Good Girl

This is Not My New Normal

Since March 2020 we’ve been social distancing. That’s about 9 months since we’ve been able to carry on with our normal routine. We already had a normal life. Everything many corporations were against have now noticed that they cannot see another way to operate their companies without remote work lifestyles.

I used to go outside for fresh air and now I’m concerned about wearing a mask outside… make it make sense, because I’m no longer breathing in fresh air with a mask on. This is not my new normal, this is not normal period. Normal is on pause and that’s what we need to understand.

When will be able to resume to our natural lives?

Signing Off,

Original Good Girl

Birthdays During the New Normal

I woke up on April 29th, grateful, blessed, happy, employed, and, most of all, Healthy on my birthday! It’s an odd feeling when you know thousands of people around the world are struggling to hold on to their life due to a virus we still don’t understand. Yet we still have to remember that life goes on, and we have to hold on to hope because there are birthdays to be celebrated, anniversaries to praise, and new accomplishments to proclaim. The only difference is that we have to observe them as we stay 6ft apart. Well, I’m good with that, LOL.

I’m a pretty stubborn young lady, and I informed my friends I did not want to do a Zoom Session nor have a “House Party” on my iPhone (sorry Sandy). But still, I woke up to several ‘Happy Birthday’ texts, and I received delicious mini Cupcakes by Baked by Melissa and a beautiful bouquet of flowers in the shape of a cake (Syn & Day y’all are so creative). I honestly did not expect anything for my birthday, absolutely nothing except for the calls and the texts (which by the way I am still accepting till Taurus season is over), it’s only right.

A Bouquet of Flowers arranged as a cake!

Mini Cupcakes from Baked by Melissa (

So what did I do on my birthday? I took the day off from work, played some of my favorite songs, watched the news (I couldn’t help myself), watched movies and TV Shows on Netflix. And later I got dolled up in a black satin dress for the evening and had an amazing home cooked meal and went right back to my couch to watch more movies. It was really a great day for me because I relaxed, which has not been so easy for me for the past couple of weeks. Out loud I remind myself “faith is not what we see, nor understand, it’s hope in the unknown as God moves the pieces in our life to make a way for the light to shine onto a clear path.”

More Good News…

Megan The Stallion and Beyonce dropped Savage the remix on my birthday… Thank you Ladies

Visit – Rap Genuis to see the Lyrics – https://genius.com/Megan-thee-stallion-savage-remix-lyrics
You can listen on Tidal, Apple Music and Spotify

Xoxo,

Original Good Girl